Each new year brings an exciting new beginning, the air is filled with hopeful outcomes and all the potential that the next twelve months can hold. I love seeing everyone so motivated to change for the better, eager to make improvement in their lives and generally just being happy! New Year’s eve and day are proof that all anyone needs to be happy is possibility.
For years, I have battled with the idea of new year’s resolutions. I would set them and do my best to keep them. For the years I actually did, I would reach my goal and then wonder to myself why I did it. One year my new year's resolution was to buy nothing new (aside from undergarments, of course)… and I made it all the way until the end of November when I was desperate for dress pants and could not find a single pair. I loved that I came so close to meeting that goal, I loved being able to share with people that I did it, but then that was it. What was really behind that goal? When I set the goal, I knew it came from a place of wanting to feel like I was helping the world, from reducing my imprint on the planet to helping the unfair working conditions in other countries. But did only pursuing that one very specific goal make me feel that way? Yes and no.
After that year, I discovered something that changed the way I saw new year’s resolutions forever. Have you ever heard of the “The Desire Map” by Danielle LaPorte? Brilliant I am telling you. Brilliant. The book is designed to help the reader make goals that are not concrete in achievement, but rather by making them based off of how you want to feel. Again, isn’t that why we make new year’s resolutions in the first place? We think they are going to make us feel a certain way?
“I want to lose 10 lbs.”- Translation: I want to feel confident, healthy, sexy (oh yeah!), etc.
“I want to use all of my vacation days”- Translation: I want to feel relaxed, free, etc.
“I want to buy nothing new.”- Translation: I want to feel like I am making a difference, being impactful.
I think you see what I am getting at here…
Instead of declaring something in particular that we want, we can chose what Danielle describes as “Core Desired Feelings” so that we can make decisions about what we are doing in our life to align with how we want to feel.
At the very end of every year, I take some time to really hone in on how I want to feel in the new year. I find myself playing around with words, trying to figure out if they hold the energy I want them to hold. As you begin to make your list, you too will find that some words resonate with you more than others. You will find that as you start your lists, you will have many words on there that mean somewhat the same thing, but I guarantee one word will fit more than the other.
This year after much contemplation I am going to try these words on:
Words are powerful. Use them to guide you! Here we go 2017.
Hugs and High Fives,